God does not look upon us and say "I wish they would just behave better". Far too often, we think what God cares about most is our behavior. That is putting the cart before the horse. God desires our heart. He desires that we are led by Him and are empowered by Him. When we do so, the behavior will follow.
The wrong order is: behavior -> intimacy
The correct order is: intimacy -> behavior
When we focus on behavior first, then we tend to fix the behavior through our flesh. We do get "better", but we are doing so independently of God. God loves us deeply and His desire for us is that we walk in intimacy with Him. When we do that, we will also walk in a manner that is pleasing to him and produce Godly fruit. When we do it our own way, we produce worthless things.
A final emphasis: behavior is not a goal; it is a result. It is one of the fruits the Spirit will produce through us. Our job is not to produce fruit, but to bear fruit. We do that by staying connected to the vine. He is the vine and we are the branches. Apart from Him, we can do nothing!
